Confused about being Forgiven

I thought that when I accepted Jesus Christ as my saviour, my sins were and will be forgiven.

But then I read 14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” (Matthew 6)

That seems like a different deal. Is my being forgiven conditional upon my ability to forgive others? Cuz if it is, I’m in trouble. (I understand that I need to ask to be forgiven everyday, cuz I muck up everyday.)

What confuses me is that even after I thought I’d forgiven someone, I will still think and say spiteful things about that person. Maybe less spiteful than before, and less often than before, but the forgiving thing seems to be a process. Not a switch that I can flip. Does my inability to forgive 100%, once and for all mean “neither will my Father forgive my trespasses?”

I know there’s something I’m not understanding here. What is it?

About beth

I started this blog in 2011 shortly after I finally opened my heart and mind to Jesus as a last resort. My intent with this blog is to share what I learn and feel along my path with Jesus.
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4 Responses to Confused about being Forgiven

  1. Susan Storlie says:

    I think forgiveness is both a switch and a process. The switch is the decision to forgive. The process is bringing your feelings and emotions into line with that decision, and that can take a long time and be very hard.
    I don’t think your salvation is at risk, but if you know that you are forgiven and that God expects you to forgive also, out of love for Him, we forgive. Make sense? It’s not based on your feelings.

  2. Michael Snow says:

    “….Luke. In chapter 6,
    we come to those familiar words, “forgive and you will be
    forgiven” (v. 37). We also remember those similar words in
    the Lord’s prayer, “forgive us our sins, for we also forgive
    everyone who is indebted to us” (11:4). In Matthew, we read
    Jesus’ exhortation and warning that follows this model
    prayer: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly
    Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive
    men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your
    trespasses” (Matt. 6:14, 15).
    If we looked at these verses with the same shallowness
    with which many Christians approach other Scripture
    verses, we would conclude that we earn our forgiveness by
    forgiving others. But Christian teachers and theologians
    would quickly cry, “Heresy,” with respect to any such claim.
    Biblical commentators take pains to clearly explain that the
    thrust of these verses is not an assertion that we can merit
    forgiveness by forgiving others, “rather it is evidence that
    the grace of God is at work in the forgiving person . . . to fail
    to forgive others is to demonstrate that one has not felt the
    saving touch of God.”10
    But for those of us who have experienced that saving
    touch, it happened when we obeyed while hearing our
    Savior say, “Repent, and believe the good news.”
    from ch. 2

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