Category Archives: relationships

Hold Space (Bite Your Tongue)

Our Bible study leader told us not to give each other advice during small-group discussions. I liked the experience. Would you? Refraining from counseling/advising/citing scripture/quoting Christian clichés holds space open for Holy Spirit (The Counselor) to be heard. Holding space prevents … Continue reading

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Grow-Your-Own Proverbs

Here’s a sampling of my Life Group’s home-grown proverbs. Below those, is the prompt you can use if you’d like to write some of your own.   He who talks but never listens will soon be talking to himself.   … Continue reading

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Reason Rant

Let’s say something unexpected and unpleasant has happened to you.  Someone says, “Things always happen for a reason.” Is that a comfort to you? Or an annoying platitude? How do you respond to it? Things always happen for a reason. … Continue reading

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Shut Up! A true story

Shut Up! The only other time her mother acts like this is when Daddy’s away and three women come over to play bridge. Then, from her bed, the child can hear the ladies jabbering and cackling like strange jungle birds. … Continue reading

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What’s in Your Wallet? (unique way to reconsider daily baggage)

Guesstimate: How much cash do you think you’re carrying? $______ Empty your pocketbook, tote bag, wallet. From the third person point of view (he/she, his/her) write assumptions a stranger might make about the person who carries the items in that … Continue reading

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Write On: 7 Prompts for You

  Write about something stressful in your past that worked out to some good. Write about something stressful going on now. Brainstorm all the ways God can work it for good and how you might be refined to be a bit … Continue reading

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Shame, Guilt, Condemnation

Nope. I’m not supposed to feel any of those emotions. They belong to Satan. But, dang. I sure blew it. Epic fail. The sad soul who’s been squatting in my brother’s basement for, oh, maybe 17 years, was smoking. Sad … Continue reading

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Are We in a Relationship?

When we’re in a relationship, we know traits about the person’s character that others who aren’t in a relationship with that person wouldn’t know or haven’t experienced first hand. Barbie loves dogs. Jason tells jokes. Don gives up easily. Sandy has a … Continue reading

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Almost Bailed…Glad I Didn’t

Wednesday night, I composed an email in my head that I planned to send to the leader of the local chapter of Dress for Success, a secular, nonprofit organization for women where I volunteer. Typically, we have guest speakers and … Continue reading

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50 Years Later Childhood Pranks Still Sting

We’re at our family picnic, and for the millionth time my brother cracks an aside about how I tortured him when we were kids. And for the millionth time, there’s a pause and the conversation veers to another topic. He … Continue reading

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